Teen
Intro
Tap
our Heads to listen to us hum
"We
get by with a little help from our friends"
Hi there!
Thanks for
coming to visit. Here's the scoop about "Band-Aides and Blackboards".
It's
a project that deals with diversity, or difference. Not
the
sort of diversity that you usually hear about, though, like racial
diversity,
ethnic diversity, religious diversity, and so forth. Instead, it's
about
differences involving health and illness, medical conditions and
physical
differences. It's a diversity that's important to consider, because
lots
of kids don't know much about it, and their ignorance produces stigma.
And stigma is a rotten thing to have to deal with, any way you look at
it.
You might
know that stigma is a word that means, according to our friend Mr.
Webster,
a mark of shame or discredit. Pick up the thesaurus and you'll see that
it can also mean blemish or disrepute. Think for a minute about the
blemishes
that we all know about--the pimples that attack at the worst of times.
Well, stigma's like that, but it doesn't come and go like your typical
pimple. It hangs around for a very long time. Often forever. Just like
chronic illness and many other medical problems.
Do you
know anybody who's got asthma, or cancer, or cystic fibrosis, or
arthritis,
or AIDS, or diabetes, or sickle cell disease, or chronic fatigue
syndrome,
or about a thousand other medical problems that I didn't mention? Lots
of teenagers have these diseases, and they have them despite the fact
that
it is not at all fair for kids to get sick. For that matter, for anyone
to get sick. You may not think you know many kids with problems like
this,
but here's the fact. That one out of every ten children has a medical
condition
that is serious enough to cause problems every day.
And here's
another fact. That lots of kids with these diseases or conditions keep
them secret. They DON'T want to feel the stigma attached to not being
physically
perfect. Easy to understand, isn't it, in an MTV culture that
emphasizes
beauty and advertises perfection? Most kids do NOT like feeling
different--unless
they are the ones who decide to be different. They would much rather be
treated like one of the gang...because they are, in fact, much more
like
you than they are different from you.
Here's
another piece of info that you might not have considered. Lots of kids
with conditions like the ones I've listed are NOT sick. They've got the
diseases, for sure, but they're doing what they need to do to stay
healthy.
That might mean taking medicine, or using inhalers, or getting
chemotherapy,
or doing treatments, or any one of a number of things that you probably
don't have to do to stay healthy. The point is that many of these kids
don't see themselves as sick, and they work real hard at staying
healthy,
despite whatever the problem is that they're stuck with. I've heard it
from the kids themselves that what they want is to be treated like they
were normal, not weird. And what they need is your understanding, not
your
pity or your fear.
One of
the things about stigma that drives me crazy is that once it's present,
it can overpower everything else about a person. It can be all
consuming.
Say a classmate loses her hair, and kids make fun of her. The stigma
that
develops as a result of the teasing can be so strong that it blinds
people
to everything besides the baldness. People can't see, for instance,
that
this girl might also be funny, or artistic, or sensitive, or a great
writer.
All they see is the difference. When stigma sticks its ugly head into
the
picture, everybody suffers.
So that's
what these pages are all about. They're an attempt to show you what
it's
like to grow up with medical problems. Most of the information comes
from
the kids themselves, and I hope that it will give you some serious food
for thought!
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